spotlight 8 things not to do on a first date Erika Ettin, Tribune News Service Mar 2, 2019 0 Facebook Twitter SMS Email Print Save Need some advice for that first date? Here’s what not to do, according to Tribune News Service advice columnist Erika Ettin. Having your phone out or texting someone else It's rude — plain and simple. When you have your phone out, the other person assumes that you're looking for better plans or would jump to leave at the first ding of a text. Try, for the duration of the date, to put your phone away. (And "away" does not mean screen-side down. It means out of view.) An exception, of course, is if you're expecting a call or text. Then, simply tell your date up front. Dreamstime Talking about your ex, past relationships If you're talking about your ex in a positive light, it looks like you're not over that person. And if you're talking about your ex in a negative light, it looks like you're not over that person, and likely somewhat bitter about it. Some people think it's fun to share sob stories. It's not — at least not on a first date, when you should simply be seeing if you have a rapport with someone. Katarzyna Bialasiewicz/Dreamstime Being late with no notice or being excessively late, even with notice You're running late. Things happen. But be kind enough to notify your date with ample time, if possible. Remember that your time is no more valuable than anyone else's. Dreamstime Being rude to a server ... or anyone Treat people kindly, no matter who they are. Dreamstime Having bad hygiene Check your breath, iron your shirt, blow your nose, comb your hair, and otherwise present a clean, put-together appearance. Sergei Tremasov/Dreamstime Talking about any one topic (especially work, or yourself) too much If you talk about work the whole time, it feels like an interview. If you talk about yourself, you sound self-absorbed. Make sure the conversation is a give-and-take. Dreamstime Not tipping well Be generous. Tip well. Danny Hooks/Dreamstime Flipping the 'off' switch if not interested Sometimes you walk into a date, and you know within the first five minutes that it's not a match. That's OK. It happens! But rather than running through your grocery list in your head during the date, try to stay present and engaged. You both made the time to be there, so it's best to make the most of it, learn something and try to enjoy yourself in some capacity. Tero Vesalainen/Dreamstime Tags Wire Tns Dating First Date Facebook Twitter SMS Email Print Save Load comments × Post a comment as Emoticons [smile] [beam] [wink] [sad] [cool] [innocent] [rolleyes] [whistling] [lol] [huh] [tongue] [love] [sleeping] [yawn] [unsure] [angry] [blink] [crying] [ohmy] [scared] [sleep] [sneaky] [tongue_smile] [thumbdown] [thumbup] [censored] [happybirthday] [ban] [spam] [offtopic] [batman] [ninja] [pirate] [alien] Comment Text Cancel Post comment × Your comment has been submitted. × Report Cancel Report Abuse ×Reported ×There was a problem reporting this. × Watch this discussion. Stop watching this discussion. Watch this discussion Get an email notification whenever someone contributes to the discussion Notifications from this discussion will be disabled. Cancel Start watching Stop watching (0) comments Welcome to the discussion. Log In Keep it Clean. Please avoid obscene, vulgar, lewd, racist or sexually-oriented language. PLEASE TURN OFF YOUR CAPS LOCK. Don't Threaten. Threats of harming another person will not be tolerated. Be Truthful. Don't knowingly lie about anyone or anything. Be Nice. No racism, sexism or any sort of -ism that is degrading to another person. Be Proactive. Use the 'Report' link on each comment to let us know of abusive posts. Share with Us. We'd love to hear eyewitness accounts, the history behind an article. Post a comment Watch this discussion. Stop watching this discussion. Most Popular Spencer’s Pizza and Chicken Ranch to open in Decatur Police: Decatur man threatens to shoot bartender who wouldn't allow him to use phone Family: Missing Decatur man has been found safe Police: Decatur father hit girl with belt over wrong homework answers First responders on scene at Illinois 121 accident View All Promotions promotion Salute To Unions: August 30, 2019 promotion Celebrate your milestone with the Herald & Review!